Question 1: Hello Aunty, My name is Rajiv and I am 34 years old man living in north point. Me and my wife have been trying to conceive for quite sometime, however no matter what type of diet we are trying , it is not working and is causing a lot of pressure. I hate when I am asked when are you planning to have a baby . To avoid the embarrassment , we often say we are not ready yet. Please suggest what should we do Aunty ?
1) Dear Rajiv,
You and your wife are experiencing challenges with conception. Getting pregnant is one of the roller coaster journeys for most couples.
Firstly, you must maintain a healthy lifestyle and a balanced diet. Please check your weight too.
Your mindset and hope that soon you will enjoy parenthood.
Consult a medical specialist who can assess your health, guide you in tracking ovulation, and suggest appropriate fertility treatments.
You should not feel embarrassed. You have chosen the best reply: ‘We are not ready yet.”
Share your feelings with family who can provide emotional support. Avoid anxiety and focus on loving and caring for each other. Trust in God and pray.
Question 2: I am Pritam aged 45 living in tung chung. After two decades in a stable but unfulfilling corporate job, I am looking for a career change. I am afraid that I will put my families financial stability at risk and also I am afraid whether or not I will be able to succeed in the new field. Specially since, I am a lot more old now, and learning is not so easy as it once was . Aunty, please tell me what should I do in this scenario, should I change my career or stay in the same secure corporate job.
2) Dear Pritam,
Considering a career change can be daunting as well as exciting. If you seek fulfilment in your career, assess your strengths, skills, and opportunities. You may have some savings to support your family until you find a new income. Before you look for a new job, consider talking to your present employer to communicate your concerns and see if you can achieve new goals in the current organization.
If you still wish to look for a new job, consider the work culture. Will you be learning anything new?
Your age is not a barrier to learning; your mindset matters. If you believe you’re too old to change, that perception can hold you back.
Question 3: Hello Aunty , I am Soni from Kwun Tung and I am 20 years old. I am currently a first year university student studying Design. I am having a dilemma where I am confused on which guy should I choose. I was originally with a guy who broke up with me. After he left me, I decided to date another guy who is nothing but super nice to me. However, I am not feeling him or her 100%, now my original boyfriend has come back and wants to be together again. Now I am confused should I go back to my original boyfriend or stay with the new boyfriend. Aunty, Please help me
3) Dear Soni,
Choosing between an original and a new boyfriend can be confusing. It’s essential to consider your feelings, values, trust, and the meaning of each relationship. Is your old boyfriend coming on the rebound? Ask him the reason for his comeback.
Give yourself some time to reflect on your goals, aspirations, career, religious beliefs, and family’s feelings.
Also, ensure your career is respected and encouraged, especially as a first-year student.
Question 4: I am Harris and I am a 27 year old graduate who is under student debt. I am faced with consistent anxiety regarding my future. Due to this debt, I can not save any money from my salary and can not make any investments or plan my wedding. On the other hand, some of my peers have already been married and are on their track to a rich and blissful life. Tell me how can I deal with this anxiety ?
4) Dear Harris
It is expected that you will feel anxious about your debt. Remember, your debt is not necessarily due to overspending or bad habits. As a graduate, you are on the path to a stable job, so focus on building your career.
Maintain your budget and explore investment opportunities within your capacity, such as a Systematic Investment Plan (SIP). Remember that you may not know the full extent of others’ debts.
Engage in activities that help you relax. If anxiety becomes overwhelming, consider seeking help from a professional counsellor.
Question 5: Hello Misses Mehta, I am Laksh , aged 43 from Wan Chai and I am a senior consultant in a recruitment company. I am faced with the problem that me and my wife have not been physical for really long. It is either that I am working long hours or she is working long hours and we both come home tired and exhausted. I tried to get close to her a few times but she denied and said not now. Can you please suggest me ways on how I can communicate with her or reignite the lost spark that we had ?
5) Dear Laksh
Your marriage needs to be a priority. Your spouse needs to feel connected, loved, cherished, and meaningful. Make time for each other.
Your busy work schedule is impacting your intimacy and physical closeness. Try sending messages from work that express your feelings for each other.
Schedule a weekly time for just the two of you to focus on one another. Share past memories that bring a smile to your face and engage in activities that help you relax, laugh, and strengthen your bond.
Question 6: I am John and my age is 35 living in Chai Wan, after my job loss , I have been very stressed out and to cope with the stress I started to use drugs. In the beginning , I thought I will just use it a few times and quit, however now I am having real trouble quitting it. I do not feel like seeing my friends now as well and feel depressed. Please tell me what should I do ?
6) Dear John,
I appreciate your positive step. You’re experiencing difficulties quitting, which can be a long process. Reflect on what triggers your stress.
Adopt the right strategies to manage your stress. Surround yourself with people who love and care for you. Change your environment and participate in outdoor activities. Listen to your favourite music.
Maintain healthy habits, and consider seeking help from a professional counsellor or psychotherapist.
If you need help, contact Mr. Darsi, 92005797, a Professional counsellor and psychotherapist.
